“Lovely” spouse has an awful nasty streak. MNHQ have commented about this thread.

tammy have you been delighted now? Yes i’ve tried keep in touch with him , absolutely cant reach him. At me or laughs at me, is absolutely never moved by me if I cry he is either angry. I have wondered if he could be a bit psychotic. Is a sweetheart that is total. Do he is loved by me? Yes yet not to your detriment of my psychological wellness. We think we’ve a extremely relationship that is bad.

These episodes happen about when an and last a week month.

I will be delweghted when I have always been now, its difficult as being a mum that is single i dont regret my choice. the one thing i can recommend is you need to do what exactly is perfect for your self along with your kids. if you are unhappy, your young ones wont be. exp constantly complained that dd should have an effective household (as him being together) but i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life unhappy in me and. besides i was raised without a dad, and I also think we ended up fine. and its own maybe not although he doesnt exactly much of an effort in my opinion like he cant see dd.

i dont really know very well what else to recommend regularhiding.

or theres counselling, but we do not understand if that will be of every assistance

regularhiding, i truly feel for your needs and know very well what it is prefer to have your spouse laugh at you if you are crying (my ex did this if you ask me a great deal).

Could I simply state that I think these nasty streaks could get to be much more and more regular and it’s also bad for you yourself to feel you must walk on eggshells (or the kids while they will sense a stress floating around).

You can find 2 items that you can do. First, the next time he threatens to keep, phone his bluff and simply tell him “there is the home”. The reason we state that is he understands without him and he is playing on this (sorry but the phrase “power trip” comes to mind) that you think you can’t live. Or perhaps you could take to asking him why he seems the requirement to be nasty for you, dominican dating club but I have the sensation this might either get laughed at or end with him being in a sh**ty mood/blaming all of it for you.

Should you believe that the actual only real reason you will be with him is you feel you mightn’t cope alone, then please realize that yes you are able to cope alone and that he is revelling when you look at the proven fact that they can treat you the way he likes since you could not leave him. I understand this from very first hand connection with my ex. He additionally thought i really couldn’t cope for a long time) but he got a shock when his power trips backfired on him and I took my DS1 and moved 500 miles to get away from him without him around (so did I.

I am sorry if i have overstepped the mark or before he started hitting me that you feel I am being too harsh on your husband but what he is doing to you sounds a lot like what my ex was doing to me not long

sorry to listen to this, regularhiding. I think hiddenspirit’s post makes a complete great deal of feeling, unfortunately.

This noises, at the minimum, like psychological abuse in my experience. You noticed any other pattern emerging when you say these episodes occur once a month and last for a week, have? can there be such a thing which generally seems to trigger them?

The worrying thing is the fact that there *is* violence, simply not inclined to you – yet. Perchance you want to look for help that is professional. You could try talking to your gp to start with if he won’t go.

Surely think you’ve got issue here. Concur that towards you or the kids too if it carries on like this he may well get violent. Indicate a diary is kept by you of incidents and what occurs within the run as much as them. Decide to try composing it from their viewpoint and from yours. Should assist you to exercise exactly exactly what their reasoning is and whether you’re willing to live along with it all or otherwise not. That he needs help if he won’t speak to you perhaps he’ll at least read what you’ve written and come to realise. For the time being I would personally form bullying into google to check out your skill to avoid yourself being bullied. Additionally look up domestic punishment. Allow it keep on and you will lose the kids’ respect along with your self that is own self- confidence. Wonder if it is a effect to your AF or something like that regular at the office? Whatever, he can not act like that. You CAN manage without him!